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What do most people think about when they are about to marry into a different culture other than their own? You wouldn’t think that it would be that big of a deal but there are many changes that one has to go through to overcome the difference of two cultures. Ashley Bess Lane talks about the challenges she had with her marriage in “Cultures Collide: 6 Things To Realize Before Marrying Someone From Another Country.” Lane is an American woman who married an Englishman from the UK. People who marry someone from another culture different than their own face challenges like choosing traditions and where to live which are all part of the sacrifices that they have to make for marriage.
Marrying into another culture different than your own can be quite challenging in ways that you would never think about. The article talks about a couple of the challenges that couples may face in these situations. Lane states, “As an American who has married an Englishman, I can safely say that marrying someone of a different background is both exciting and interesting. It also requires a lot of empathy and understanding on both of our parts.” No matter how hard it is Lane explains that it is all worth it in the end. It takes a lot of communication an effort. From family issues to deciding how to raise your child it can take a lot of effort. “Marrying someone from a different country, however, means you'll certainly be divvying up the holidays by country, and it gets even more complicated when divorced families are added into the mix.” This demonstrates just one of the challenges that Lane had to face with her husband from another country. Traditions are different and you have to learn how to sacrifice certain things such as holidays.
Along with changing changing traditions and adapting to new things you have to give up more than you think. Lane states “Inevitably, one or both of you, depending on where you choose to settle, will see his or her family and friends far less than if you were both from the same country.” It is a little bit sad to think about not seeing your family as much as you used to. The way to think about is that you’re creating your own family and you have them. Because you have to decide to live somewhere other than where your family lives, you have to see them sometimes which can cost money. “Also, start saving… like, yesterday. You will find that most of your spare cash will go towards flights back home to visit each year. It's not all doom and gloom, though; take solace in the notion that this will not only make you excellent travelers over time, but also expert flight finders.” Lane expresses that it is tough not seeing your family as much as you would like to, but it is for the one you love. Going into a marriage like this you have to think about what it changes for your own life. Despite the challenges that couples have to push through to get married into separate cultures it is all just to be together and to be happy. Ashley Bess Lane shows us that it is worth the challenge to work for the one you love.
Future Research Question: Despite the challenges that come with interracial and multicultural marriages, why do people still do it?
Marrying into another culture different than your own can be quite challenging in ways that you would never think about. The article talks about a couple of the challenges that couples may face in these situations. Lane states, “As an American who has married an Englishman, I can safely say that marrying someone of a different background is both exciting and interesting. It also requires a lot of empathy and understanding on both of our parts.” No matter how hard it is Lane explains that it is all worth it in the end. It takes a lot of communication an effort. From family issues to deciding how to raise your child it can take a lot of effort. “Marrying someone from a different country, however, means you'll certainly be divvying up the holidays by country, and it gets even more complicated when divorced families are added into the mix.” This demonstrates just one of the challenges that Lane had to face with her husband from another country. Traditions are different and you have to learn how to sacrifice certain things such as holidays.
Along with changing changing traditions and adapting to new things you have to give up more than you think. Lane states “Inevitably, one or both of you, depending on where you choose to settle, will see his or her family and friends far less than if you were both from the same country.” It is a little bit sad to think about not seeing your family as much as you used to. The way to think about is that you’re creating your own family and you have them. Because you have to decide to live somewhere other than where your family lives, you have to see them sometimes which can cost money. “Also, start saving… like, yesterday. You will find that most of your spare cash will go towards flights back home to visit each year. It's not all doom and gloom, though; take solace in the notion that this will not only make you excellent travelers over time, but also expert flight finders.” Lane expresses that it is tough not seeing your family as much as you would like to, but it is for the one you love. Going into a marriage like this you have to think about what it changes for your own life. Despite the challenges that couples have to push through to get married into separate cultures it is all just to be together and to be happy. Ashley Bess Lane shows us that it is worth the challenge to work for the one you love.
Future Research Question: Despite the challenges that come with interracial and multicultural marriages, why do people still do it?
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